{"id":635,"date":"2019-07-28T18:20:53","date_gmt":"2019-07-28T16:20:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zoezulu.wordpress.com\/?p=359"},"modified":"2020-06-25T19:45:21","modified_gmt":"2020-06-25T17:45:21","slug":"a-life-lesson-from-circuits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/2019\/07\/28\/a-life-lesson-from-circuits\/","title":{"rendered":"A Life Lesson From Circuits"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-700\" src=\"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/jarvik-joshi-yjgE1xjyv60-unsplash-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1707\" \/>I&#8217;ve heard a lot of songs with the words <em>&#8220;without you&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>With or without you, with or without you &#8211; I, I can&#8217;t live, with or without you.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>That&#8217;s tough. I understand clearly why you wouldn&#8217;t be able to have certain people in your life. (Betrayal for example, and all those other unpleasant things)<\/p>\n<p>But how is it that, sometimes, we feel like we cannot live without some people even though they are <em>no good<\/em>?<\/p>\n<p>Let me shed <strong>some light<\/strong> on the situation.<\/p>\n<p>Think about <strong>lights<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>There are two ways in which they can be connected in a circuit, in series and in parallel.<\/p>\n<p><u>Series connection<\/u><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>All the lights are connected along a single conductive path<\/li>\n<li>The same current goes through them but the voltage drops and this drop in voltage means that the lights don&#8217;t shine as brightly as possible.<\/li>\n<li>There is shared resistance.<\/li>\n<li>OH and lest I forget, if one light is not functioning, the circuit breaks and all the lights switch off. (Like dominoes, one falls and the rest go tumbling after<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><u>Parallel connection<\/u><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Lights<span style=\"color: #222222; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont,;\"> connected in parallel are connected along multiple paths so that the current can split up; the same <\/span>voltage<span style=\"color: #222222; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont,;\"> is applied to each <\/span>light and the lights shine brighter than they would if they were connected in series.<\/li>\n<li>Get this, one light stops working, the rest keep on shining.<\/li>\n<li><strong>I repeat<\/strong> each bulb has its own circuit, so all but one light could be burned out, and <strong>the last one will still function<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>So I hope you can see where I&#8217;m going.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-364 alignnone size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/zoezulu.files.wordpress.com\/2019\/07\/u9l4b1.gif\" width=\"358\" height=\"159\" \/><\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;People are flighty, they leave, you cannot and should not put all your trust in them.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Psalms 118 backs me up on this<br \/>\nVerses 8-9 It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man. It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in princes.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>No man is an island, we have to interact with people to live a fulfilling life, we have to connect with people. Now you must consider the connection you would like. Series or parallel?<\/p>\n<p>Series connections perfectly illustrate toxic interactions where there aren&#8217;t enough clear lines and boundaries.<\/p>\n<p>Robert Frost was right &#8220;Good fences make good neighbors&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>In series you align all aspects of your existence to a person or group of people to the point where you feel like you <em>cannot live without them<\/em>, but since they make your light dimmer &#8211; you <em>can&#8217;t live <\/em><strong><em>with<\/em><\/strong><em> them.. <\/em>yet you can&#8217;t sever them because they complete your circuit. They are your lifeline &#8211; they falter, you falter. And if you fall they fall too. Just thinking about the constant uncertainty scares me.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-365 alignnone size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/zoezulu.files.wordpress.com\/2019\/07\/tenor.gif\" width=\"498\" height=\"294\" \/><\/p>\n<p><u>Parallel connections<\/u>.<\/p>\n<p>You have clear boundaries, thus there isn&#8217;t shared resistance. Their problems aren&#8217;t your responsibility and your problems aren&#8217;t their responsibility.<\/p>\n<p>In parallel, you live in comfort and you can be the best you can be because <em>the voltage<\/em> is not lowered by your affiliation with people. If the person has to leave for some reason or another, you&#8217;ll be able to live without them because, well, your lifeline isn&#8217;t based on something as fleeting as a human being.<\/p>\n<p><em>People leaving <\/em><\/p>\n<p>That is a lot to deal with in both cases, it&#8217;s just the pain of one kind of loss is more pronounced than the other. In series, the whole room goes dark. In parallel, the room just becomes less bright.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>We&#8217;re supposed to complement and not complete each other. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-366 alignnone size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/zoezulu.files.wordpress.com\/2019\/07\/7far.gif\" width=\"499\" height=\"390\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve heard a lot of songs with the words &#8220;without you&#8221; With or without you, with or without you &#8211; I, I can&#8217;t live, with&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[79,85,14,135],"class_list":{"0":"post-635","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-uncategorized","7":"tag-friends","8":"tag-independent","9":"tag-music","10":"tag-u2"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=635"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":770,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635\/revisions\/770"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=635"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=635"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=635"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}