{"id":222,"date":"2018-01-21T11:04:55","date_gmt":"2018-01-21T11:04:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zoezulu.wordpress.com\/?p=222"},"modified":"2020-06-20T01:15:02","modified_gmt":"2020-06-19T23:15:02","slug":"the-diffusion-gradient","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/2018\/01\/21\/the-diffusion-gradient\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;The Diffusion Gradient&#8221; in your interactions"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-263\" src=\"https:\/\/zoezulu.files.wordpress.com\/2018\/01\/29715312_2080148328931206_2900146984105017344_n.jpg\" alt=\"29715312_2080148328931206_2900146984105017344_n\" width=\"480\" height=\"480\"><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>You don&#8217;t belong here.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I hear the voices in my head chatter incessantly about that reality as I wander from place to place.<\/p>\n<p>Feeling misunderstood is not foreign to me and I am guessing that many other people aren&#8217;t strangers to it either. The people who actually &#8220;get you&#8221; are very few and far between and you are often too averse and incongruent to ever fit in with the rest of the population.<\/p>\n<p>You weren&#8217;t made for everyone obviously, yet I would find myself asking<em> &#8220;What&#8217;s wrong with us Zothile?&#8221;<\/em> I would start feeling like I&#8217;m the problem based on the vast difference between me and majority of the people around me.<\/p>\n<p>Right back to, <a href=\"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/2017\/08\/24\/if-you-dont-belong-dont-be-long\/\"><strong>&#8220;If you don&#8217;t belong, don&#8217;t be long<\/strong>.&#8221;<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Think of it in terms of diffusion: the net movement of particles from a region of high concentration to a region of low concentration down a diffusion gradient. For example; you may be<em> &#8220;you&#8221;<\/em> but when heavily surrounded by people who think you&#8217;re <em>&#8220;a little much<\/em>&#8221; and don&#8217;t embrace you and you differences you may lose a piece of who you are, their inability to understand you shown by the condemnation you received makes <strong>the diffusion gradient<\/strong> very steep. At that rate what will there be left of you if you are forced to constantly make alterations and extentions?.<\/p>\n<p>Find people composed of the same values and traits, find people who complement your existence, find those who will accept or have a semblance of accepting you for you. Eliminate the &#8220;diffusion gradient&#8221; and you will never be at a loss. No need for that facade anymore.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You don&#8217;t belong here. I hear the voices in my head chatter incessantly about that reality as I wander from place to place. Feeling misunderstood&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":263,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[175,76],"class_list":{"0":"post-222","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-uncategorized","8":"tag-finding-your-tribe","9":"tag-fitting-in"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/222","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=222"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/222\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":746,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/222\/revisions\/746"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/263"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=222"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=222"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=222"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}