I couldn\u2019t accept the present you<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I couldn\u2019t see that you were a gift<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I kept seeing what you could\u2019ve been<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That was my gravest sin<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I was blind to the beauty before me<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So I got out my toolbox<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And tried to make out<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Something to tickle my fancy<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You never stood a chance<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For You were up against<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The image I had in my head<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In \u201cmaking\u201d I marred you<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In \u201cbuilding\u201d I barred you<\/p>\n\n\n\n
From seeing that you were just right<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My fault is that I got my fix<\/p>\n\n\n\n
From seeing brokenness where it did not exist<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And giving help unsolicited<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The necklace I gave you<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Turned out to be a noose<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And those bracelets<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Turned out to be briers<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I have to brace myself<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For the news<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That you want to break loose<\/p>\n\n\n\n
from me, <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I didn\u2019t know that holding you close<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Was tantamount<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To holding you hostage<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Fixation: an obsessive or unhealthy preoccupation or attachment.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n The rationale behind this poem: I am a recovering Bob-the-builder. That means, I have recently learnt that it is not my place to “fix” people. As Ella Yelich O’Connor (Lorde) says in her song “The Path” <\/p>\n\n\n\n Saviour is not me<\/p>Lorde, The Path<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n When I would perceive someone as having a problem, I would find myself wondering how I was going to fix them or transform them. The fact of the matter is that we should give people autonomy. We need to give them room to be who they are and if we cannot stomach them being their authentic selves we should leave them be. If my continued presence is contingent on them “shaping up” I need to be the one to “ship out.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sticking around for potential could potentially hurt you, as well as hurting the other person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I am hoping you got the play on words in the title, I was fixated on fixing people. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The fact of the matter is that we should give people autonomy. We must give them room to be who they are and if we cannot stomach them being their authentic selves we should leave them be.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":1554,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1550","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-poetry"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1550","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1550"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1550\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1556,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1550\/revisions\/1556"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1554"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1550"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1550"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zoezulu.co.zw\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1550"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}